Does your past affect your present?

When something goes wrong….what do you do?

Do you dwell,  worry over think….. carry it much longer than is required?
I am certainly guilty of this at times especially when it’s something that really matters.

The tale of two monks and a woman is a well-known Buddhist parable to recall when this happens next time .

The story goes that two monks were traveling together, a senior and a junior. They came to a river with a strong current where a young woman was waiting, unable to cross alone. She asks the monks if they would help her across the river. Without a word and in spite of the sacred vow he’d taken not to touch women, the older monk picks her up, crosses, and sets her down on the other side.

The younger monk joins them across the river and is aghast that the older monk has broken his vow but doesn’t say anything. An hour passes as they travel on. Then two hours. Then three. Finally, the now quite agitated younger monk can stand it no longer: “Why did you carry that women when we took a vow as monks not to touch women?”

The older monk replies, “I set her down hours ago by the side of the river. Why are you still carrying her?”

The story is a reminder to not dwell on the past in a way that interferes with living in the present moment.

A great reminder that we can never change the past we can only ever learn from it. Bringing ourselves in to the present is the most useful place to be and less stressful and usually so much more fun!